Fake it Till You Make it: A Chaotic Approach to Success

@dkchaosmagician

I'm pretty sure that when you wake up and get ready for work you have a ritual that gets you in the mindset to go in. By the time you've had your breakfast, coffee and shower you are almost there. Then you struggle into your uniform and look at yourself in the mirror. By the time you hit  the clock-in you are focused and ready to go. But what if you want to get into something you don't truly know much about? Or what if you simply want to feel comfortable or fit in at a party? I say, fake it until you make it.

Stick with me here. Say you look across the room at the party and there is this person that is surrounded by party goers who hang on his every word and gesture. You think to yourself, "I want to command a crowd like that". How do you do it though? Like anything else charm takes practice. No one was ever good at it right from the start and no one gets charm by standing in the corner wondering about it. You have to put yourself in the position to be charming and the only way to do that is to study social interaction and fake it and learn from your mistakes.

I worked for a call center many years ago. When I went through training the instructor taught us everything we needed to know. She went over the scripts. We did role playing. We sat in on calls with senior associates. After weeks of this before we were to start our first solo shifts she said to us:

Even with everything you've learned here you won't get everything right. Keep going. Fake it until you make it.

I understood that what she was telling us was that we have to walk out into the fire. We are as prepared as we can be but the real world has come knocking and you are going to have to deal with the chaos that brings. And here we are all about chaos kiddo's so I am telling you the only way to deal with it is to face it and harness it. All of the cues and clues are there for us to use we just have to recognize them and use them towards our goals with fresh intent.

It seems crazy to walk into a party and just start chatting people up. But that's how you learn charm. Put on your best sorcerers garb (look good in your own style) and wade out int the waters of social interaction. Take with you the mantle of chaos you and know that you can succeed. when you fail, and you will, cry about it for a day or two. Consider and try again. Don't give up and one day you might just be as charming of a pig as I am.